QUALITY not Quantity!

As we continue our conversation based upon the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, we want to introduce another Love Language! Quality Time

The book defines Quality Time as time spent focused on your mate. So, that means that you are engaging in uninterrupted, distraction free time together. Sounds simple enough, right? Some couples may find it challenging to turn off the distractions of life and spend some one on one. Work, kids and your own individual needs to relax and unwind may get in the way.

Those who respond to this Love Language need this interaction to feel loved and affirmed. Spending Quality Time together doesn't have to be elaborate or by the book. It can be self defined. Quality conversation may suffice, but does require eye contact, listening, responding and making an internal connection with whatever it is your mate is saying. And although the book suggests you spend time really focused on one another. You may find that you too enjoy watching a movie or the game together. So go for that!

The connected formed by spending Quality Time together is a deep and lasting one.

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Sleep or Sex?

As we continue our discussion exploring The Five Love Languages, we introduced Physical Touch.

A new study, funded by Westin Hotels, shows more than half (51%) of Americans surveyed chose to snooze. Just 10 years ago, a similar study found sex to be the priority -- with only 31% saying they'd rather sleep. No surpise that more men opted to have sex and no doubt, sleep after! The ladies on the other hand, said nighty night!

What do these results really say? Perhaps there is a correlation between lack of sex in relationships and divorce. Are we so stressed and overworked that we neglect to intimately connect with our mates? Sex is a way to maintain and nurture your bond. Without that physical touch, you may find your relationship mirroring that of room mates and not lovers. Ok, so you are just too tired and can't engage fully in the act of sex. Physical touch can involve embracing, caressing or kissing. That type of physical interaction is one element that distinguishes platonic relationships from more personal ones.

Sleep & sex are both essential. Spicy Wifey suggests a Sexy Slumber Party with your mate! Make an effort to get both in one night. Make it about getting in rest and sex. You can keep it simple, and set the mood and indulge in all the kissing and heavy petting you can until you fall asleep. Or go all out, get a room. Let your mate sleep first and wake them up with a little bit more than breakfast in bed!

Which would you rather do?

1st Love Language

The Spicy Wifey Book Club selection is The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

The book is a VERY easy read and millions have found it of great benefit when improving communication with their mates. And surprisingly, you can also apply the Love Language philosophy to benefit communication in the workplace and with friends and family members!

COMMUNICATION is frequently sited as an area of opportunity in most relationships. The Five Love Languages explores what is the best "language" to use when communicating. Reading this book I quickly discovered that I wasn't speaking my husbands language. Therefore, when I expressed love, anger, concern or any other emotion...he didn't always hear me. And not because he wasn't listening but because I wasn't necessarily speaking HIS language.

This brings us to the Love Language....Words of Affirmation.

A person who responds to verbal compliments, encouragement and verbal reaffirming may respond to this love language. Like my hubby does, at times! To learn more, join us in reading The Five Love Languages!

We will assemble in Atlanta September 12th for a discussion about the book. However, those abroad can get in on the discussion now! Look for periodic posts on this blog and our Facebook group page.

We can't wait to hear your thoughts, experiences and stories of discovery!

Quin

Spicy Wifey Co- Founder

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Spicy Wifey Book Club Selection Announcement

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

This is the first of many books we plan to read and discuss. Spicy Wifey Co-Founder Natalie Britt made this selection based upon personal experience! The book has simple & practical approaches to improving the quality of communication between spouses. Communication is the corner stone of marriage & relationships and is essential when addressing every other aspect that comes up in marriage. Millions have found this best seller helpful in their relationships and we hope you will too!

Spicy Wifey is Atlanta based and in a few weeks will announce the exact date and location for our discussion that will take place in the metro Atlanta area. We encourage you to read The Five Love Languages and have your spouse do so also. This discussion will be open to MEN as well! We welcome all to participate in the discussion even if you haven't had the opportunity to read the book. As there will still be much to gain from the discussion!

If you live outside of the Atlanta area, we encourage you to get a group of Spicy ladies together to read the book and discuss. We will post topics and begin conversation related to the book here on the blog and our Facebook group page. And we'd love for you to participate via those online outlets.

Part of our mission is to improve the quality of marriage and ultimately create more positive perceptions of marriage. So, go grab your copy of The Five Love Languages today!