Wednesday, August 26, 2009

QUALITY not Quantity!

As we continue our conversation based upon the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, we want to introduce another Love Language! Quality Time

The book defines Quality Time as time spent focused on your mate. So, that means that you are engaging in uninterrupted, distraction free time together. Sounds simple enough, right? Some couples may find it challenging to turn off the distractions of life and spend some one on one. Work, kids and your own individual needs to relax and unwind may get in the way.

Those who respond to this Love Language need this interaction to feel loved and affirmed. Spending Quality Time together doesn't have to be elaborate or by the book. It can be self defined. Quality conversation may suffice, but does require eye contact, listening, responding and making an internal connection with whatever it is your mate is saying. And although the book suggests you spend time really focused on one another. You may find that you too enjoy watching a movie or the game together. So go for that!

The connected formed by spending Quality Time together is a deep and lasting one.


Spicy Wifey said...

I can certainly identify with the lack of time and constraints when it comes to spending Quality Time. Work and kids and YES, personal needs too. I do find that just curling up next to my man on the couch while he watches the game, does feel nice. I will take what I can get! BUT, Quality Time isn't my Love Language.
Yes, its an important part of our relationship, but not at the top of the list of needs for me. And this is why you must asses what YOUR and YOUR MATES Love Languages are, because for a person who NEEDS that Quality Time, it can make or break the relationship for them.

Quin, Spicy Wifey

Anonymous said...

Hi Spicy Wifey!
I know I've been missing for a looooooong time, but I'm back!

I love The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Awesome, awesome book!

Spicy Wifey said...

Thanks Kenya for checking in. I apologize for the late response. Had a family crisis and am just now chimming back in!

Great book and if you are in Atlanta join us Saturday as we discuss love & relationships. We'll spring board the discussion from the book!